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Ask Dr. Ceren: Psych-Ing Yourself For Retirement (Part 1 of 2)
© 2003-2006, Sandra Levy Ceren. All Rights Reserved.

If retirement is in your not too distant future and you feel distress when contemplating your change of status, consider what the term "retirement" means to you.

Does it mean that you expect to be treated differently, as an old-timer, or a non-productive citizen? Will it cause you to become invisible in a culture glorified in the media by the beauty and vigor of youth? Does it mean a loss of friends and colleagues you have made in the workplace? They can remain in your life if your relationships were close. You can still socialize with them, perhaps meeting for lunch occasionally or at parties.

Does retirement signify that work will no longer dictate your schedule? Perhaps you will feel a tremendous sense of relief and freedom when no longer ruled by the clock. However, if you describe yourself as a "creature of habit" you may feel uncomfortable with a lack of structure. You will realize this when you feel anxious contemplating how to spend your new-found time and you may find contact in developing a new schedule for yourself. Join a gym and attend daily at your self appointed times. During your working years, work schedules and raising a family may have consumed you. You may have behaved like a robot--as though you were controlled remotely. You didn't have the time to get in touch with yourself--unless problems led you to seek psychotherapy.

If you have not had the time to get in touch with yourself. Now is the time to learn who you are, what really excites and what bores you. You must re-acquaint yourself with aspects that were hidden because you had no time to explore them.

This is the time to emotionally prepare for a new stage in life -- much as you did when you became an adult. Only now you have more freedom to investigate your options. You no longer are in a race to find a mate, to have children, to prepare for an appropriate career and save money for your retirement. The stress from forcing yourself to compete in the marketplace is no longer there--unless you are the kind of person who thrives on competition. If so, you can develop a plan that includes competitive activities in your retirement years.

It is best to look at this period of your life as an adventure. An opportunity to grow in new ways.